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Almost Perfect, Jenna JaxonToday, I’m delighted to have Jenna Jaxon here, sharing her thoughts on make up sex. This article is insightful, informative, and fun! And don’t miss the blurb and excerpt at the end of the post. You’re gonna want to get this book after you sample.

Kiss and Make-up

We’ve all done it. Anger and frustration boil over easily in today’s complicated society and we end up in a fight with our spouse or significant other. And after the dust settles, 9 times out of 10, your man is over it and ready for the next step: make-up sex.

This phenomenon is actually physiological. According to the experts, the adrenaline rush you get when you’re angry creates responses similar to sexual arousal. Some couples actually use verbal sparring as foreplay. A great example of this is the segment in the movie My Cousin Vinny where Vinny and Lisa begin an argument over the dripping water faucet that escalates until they’re embracing passionately. Fun stuff!

The trick is not to let the anger win. Find ways to defuse the situation before it leads you to irreparable damage in your relationship. You can lead into the possibility of make-up sex several ways: establish a make-up ritual as a way of calling a truce, turn the tables with laughter, agree to a final word then take the next step and let it go, make physical contact (so you feel connected again). Any of these activities can create a bridge from hostility to harmony–so you can make that beautiful music together again.

And the benefits of make-up sex are many, especially for women.

  1. The adrenaline that’s released can make make-up sex more exciting–like the first time all over again.
  2. It’s one of the times you’ll be able to get him to cuddle afterwards: increased levels of oxytocin are released during intense orgasms, and this hormone leads to cuddling or bonding.
  3. You can be the tiger in the bedroom (if you aren’t already). Make-up sex creates the possibility for you to continue to be the aggressor.
  4. You may win the fight by default. Men tend to give up their anger much quicker than women. So by the time you’re finished with the lovemaking portion of the evening, he may not even remember what you were fighting about!
  5. In Almost Perfect, my latest erotic contemporary, Pam and Roger got a divorce after a particularly nasty fight. No make-up sex for them! Until two years later, stranded on a deserted island, passion overwhelms them once more. Talk about delayed gratification!

    Blurb for Almost Perfect:

    Pamela Kimball’s birthday present, a 1Night Stand adventure, promises jump-start her life, put a new man in her bed, and help her forget her past. Unfortunately, movie-buff Pam’s Pirates of the Caribbean fantasy takes an alarming wrong turn when she’s abandoned on a not quite deserted island—with ex-husband Roger Ware.

    Forced by hunger to accept Roger’s offer of dinner, Pam realizes the geek she married has transformed into one of the most charming, sexiest men she’s ever met. His newfound confidence—and hot body—re-kindles old fires. A simple kiss leads Roger to challenges her to discover how much his lovemaking skills have improved, leaving Pam torn between self-preservation and burning desire.

    With time running out before they’re rescued, Pam must decide if her heart can survive the consequences of becoming Roger’s “almost” perfect 1Night Stand.

    Excerpt from Almost Perfect:

    His hand cupped her head again and she sat mesmerized as he drew her near. This time his tongue licked the outer rim of her ear, sending strings of chills along her arms. “You used to like this, I remember.”

    “Roger.…” She needed to get out of there—because she wanted to stay so badly.

    His tongue continued around her lobe, his breath tickling her neck as his head descended to the collar of her shirt. She gasped as the cloth fell open. When had he learned to unbutton buttons so fast? He followed an exquisitely torturous trail down to her nipple, peaked and ready for him. As he latched onto the sensitive tip and tugged with his teeth, the crotch of her shorts flooded with her desire.

    She moaned and shook her head. “We shouldn’t do this. You want your perfect fantasy date.” He continued to tease and torment the crest, until her breath came in gasps.

    “Tonight I’ll take almost perfect, Pam.” His finger traced a line down her stomach, making the muscles tremble. “Besides, don’t you want to see what I’ve learned?” The deep voice held a challenge she wanted to accept. Even if this was punishment for past sins, she didn’t care. It had been more than two years since she’d made love to a man, made love to this man. If his lovemaking had improved as much as the rest of him, she didn’t want to miss it.

    “Yes.” The word came out as a husky whisper. Her shirt fell away and his tongue stroked from one breast to the other, flicking each peak, sending sparks down to her fingertips. She ground her bottom into the chair, needing more, needing it now. He smiled against her skin and one hand slid to the button on her shorts, the other down her backside to cup her butt. With a liquid movement, he peeled the garment off her like the skin from an orange. The panties disappeared, too, tossed aside in the heap of clothing, leaving her bare ass on the soft chair cushion.

    Thank you, Jenna, for joining us today. It’s always a great pleasure to work with you.


  1. Thank you so much, Jenna, for being here today. And thanks to all the commenters who took the time to give their thoughts. I hope you all had a lovely Saturday.

  2. I just wanted to thank you again, Patricia for having me on your site today. Hope you had as much fun as I have. 🙂

  3. Love the excerpt. Make up sex is the best. I’ll be honest though, hubby and I don’t fight but sometimes just saying a few choices words in an agreement send us over the edge…


    • Sounds like a good “argument” for verbal sparring. Just like in My Cousin Vinny, or if you’re a fan of the old series Cheers, the moment Sam and Diane get together. Argument turns into passionate kiss and the rest is probably a lot of make up sex. LOL Thanks for stopping by, Marika!

  4. Loved the excerpt AND the info on make-up sex, particularly the hormonal information.

    • I was truly surprised by that info too, Bianca. I’d always wondered why my husband thought I’d want to have sex when I was so angry! I’m going to try to “go with the flow” next time we fight. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

  5. I know it’s beneficial. And make-up sex is hot. And yes, it sometimes does feel like the first time all over again. Sex is the most intimate thing a couple does together, and I feel it is a great way to clear the air after a fight–but that all depends on what the couple is fighting about.

    • Now that is true, Brenda. If the problem is systemic, a deep seated problem, then make up sex probably won’t help. But agreeing to shelve the anger will at least keep you communicating.

      I actually don’t remember ever having make up sex. I hold onto the anger long after I should. But next fight, I’m going to try to let go of it and see what happens. 🙂 I hope I’m pleasantly surprised! LOL

  6. A great post, Jenna!

    I think it is beneficial, as a couple is never supposed to go to bed angry, right?

    Always works for us. LOL

    • The old advice “Never go to bed angry” really is a key to keeping a relationship on an even keel. And apparently make up sex is one way to chase the anger away! Thanks for coming by, Jessica. 🙂

  7. I don’t think I’ve ever had make-up sex – but that’s because I never fight with my husband…much. LOL

  8. Jennifer Lowery (Kamptner)

    Wonderful interview, ladies! I will always read anything Jenna puts out because she rocks! This one sounds really good 🙂 Since make-up sex is so healthy guess I’ll have to do it more often, lol! I wanna be healthy 🙂

  9. Thank you so much for having me on your blog today, Patricia. I’ve been looking forward to this for some time.

    I’m hoping with this *clears throat* interesting topic, we’ll have some comments on whether Make-Up Sex is healthy or not. Some people swear it’s not beneficial.

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