Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Hello, everyone! Did you realize that October is “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”? I think that’s a very pertinent topic as we regard spanking romance novels. A great many people — not you, of course — think that spanking is violence. Somehow this usually pertains only to women getting spanked, though men go in for it too occasionally. But that’s a topic for another post. We’ll focus on women today.
Let me tell you why I don’t think Domestic Discipline (spanking, corner time, writing lines) is “domestic violence”. Two words tell it all, as far as I’m concerned, injury and victim. No one, not one person, in my spanking romance books, intends to injure the person being spanked. Pain is not injury. Pain is a reminder, so long as it doesn’t go further. The people in my books, and the vast majority of other spanking novels, are loving couples who believe in male dominance and female submission. The spankee does not feel like a victim; she feels like she’s being cared for and nurtured. Attitude counts.
No, I do not condone violence against others. But it’s dangerous when you lump every touch into one category, without nuance or serious thought. Spanking is not injurious, and in Domestic Discipline relationships, it is accepted, even welcomed, by both parties. No one is a victim.
So, let’s contemplate “Domestic Violence Awareness Month” carefully. Do you feel that a woman who chooses to be spanked is a victim of domestic violence?
Food for thought.