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SRRT graphicThe topic for this week’s Spanking Romance Round Table discussion is “Feminism and Spanking.” What a huge can of worms! Feminism, all by itself, is a topic worth 1000 posts.

I have a politically incorrect view on feminism. As I interpret the origins of feminism, it was intended to open doors for women, give them choices, make their lives more fulfilled. As of today’s posting, however, I find women to be more neurotic, more driven to depression, more haggard, given fewer choices, than any time I’ve experienced or read about.

Most have to work and yet manage a home. (Generally, they partner with men for this, and that can alleviate some of the stress.) There is huge pressure on SAHMs to get out in the workforce as soon as they can, put their children in daycare for indoctrination and generally get onto the hamster wheel. Once in the workforce, women are frowned upon if they don’t ambitiously strive to be the company CEO. They are discouraged from taking time off to tend to sick children or aging parents. Their peer group (other women) puts pressure on them to be superwoman or be shunned. This drives a lot of women into depression and runs them ragged, when what they really want to be is nurturing, peaceful, creative and steady.

This does not apply to all women, but from what I’ve seen, it sure applies to most.

woman in a box -modified -20239328_sHow does spanking fit in? Well, let’s say you are a spanked wife (or girlfriend). Can you imagine telling your sister or your co-worker? The “A-word” (abuse) would be right there, hanging out like bad breath. Most feminists would chalk a woman’s desire for disciplinary spanking to be sick, a horrific product of the patriarchy. And yet, so many of us want to have the structure, the peace, that comes with knowing that you have a partner who cares enough to help you correct your own unwanted behaviors. And that doesn’t even get into erotic spanking, which feminists are slightly more likely to accept, but you have to remember, radical feminists think having sex while half-asleep (already in bed with the guy and having shared that intimacy before) is akin to rape. As Dave Barry would say, “I’m not making this stuff up.”

So…in my opinion, modern feminism does not allow for spanking. This despite the fact that originally feminism was intended to give women more freedom to explore all their options. Political correctness takes away all those choices and tries to put women in a single, square, unyielding box.

Being in a box makes me claustrophobic. I don’t know about you.

For more thoughts on Feminism and Spanking, follow along through these links. Be sure to add your opinion to the discussion. We’re all in this together.


  1. You know, I had this moment in college when we were talking about where we wanted to end up in life and I said I really just wanted to be a wife and mom. The reactions were less than supportive and it made me feel like I was being stupid for not having any “real goals”.

    I think it is possible to be a feminist and like being spanked. To be a feminist and want to be a SAHM. To be a feminist and submit to a man.

    It might not be socially acceptable, but I like to think that part of being a feminist is recognizing that I have a choice to be whatever type of woman I want to be.

  2. I am a feminist and I like to be spanked. I definitely don’t need to stay in any boxes… Thanks for joining us today!

  3. Well written post. I was a SAHM for 22 years. I now hold a part time job. I have no ambition to work more. To move up the ladder, etc. I like the fact that the job is low stress. It allows me to help financially while still provide for the care and feeding of my family.

  4. What Natasha said. 🙂 Patricia, I’m not big on being put into a box either. Unless I want to be. Wink. Oh shit, I said that out loud, didn’t I?

  5. Totally agree! I hate it when people try to put me in a box. Great post. I found myself nodding as I read along. If I wanted to pick up a line that I really enjoyed, I would have to repost the whole article.

  6. I agree we are definitely stuck in a rat race induced box in this day and age. I think balance is key and knowing your own personal limitations. It’s true that there are enormous pressures. I think the key is being comfortable in your own skin & choices. It’s easier said than done, but there it is.

  7. heh. politically incorrect! I found myself nodding regularly while reading your post, Patricia.

  8. I agree w/you Patricia. I have too many friends who are making themselves crazy (and depressed) trying to fit the mold of what feminism (and other women) tell them they should want which often results in the denying their own inner voices (don’t want to sound too new age-y, but you know what I mean).

  9. I don’t know, I’m a feminist–but I define what that means to me. Mostly it means that I believe women are people. 🙂

    All people, male, female, trans, whatever, have the right to admit they enjoy being spanked. 🙂

    Interesting perspective in this post. Thanks for writing it!

  10. Equality is the right to say things, disagree with each other, and support our right to say what we believe. Say what you think and don’t apologize for it.

    Though I must admit that I’m laughing at Natasha’s comment.

  11. I saw screw it all Patricia. I like to be spanked and that is that. HA to politically correct!! 🙂

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